WHO IS THE RIGHT MARRIAGE PARTNER?
WHO IS THE RIGHT MARRIAGE PARTNER?
“Do not fret because of evildoers, Nor be envious of the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, And wither as the green herb. Trust in the LORD, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the LORD, AND HE SHALL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART. Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring it to pass.” (Psalm 37:1-5, NKJV)
One of the most critical decisions in life is choosing a marriage partner. Most of the youth today are confused about marriage due to this very problem of choice. With the current failure rate for marriages all over the world, it is vital for young people contemplating marriage to consider all the factors involved.
The first thing to do is to let the word of God be your guide. The text above guided me properly. I trusted the Lord in these matters, and truly, at the right time, He gave me the right lady! God never fails those who trust His guidance. Spiritual resources are important for a balanced approach to handling any circumstance of life. Be in good relationship with God, and have the assurance that God is with you always. Praying will help you to identify more clearly God's will for you before you enter into a relationship.
In addition to his there is the need to examine what you want to live your life for. This will help you to choose the right partner. As such, the following issues should be examined critically with whoever you want to live the rest of life with as a partner:
1. GOALS FOR LIFE.
Almost any kind of personal differences can be overcome, as long as the couple shares common goals for life and wants the same basic kind of lifestyle. So two people contemplating marriage should begin by identifying their own goals for life. They should determine individually their hopes and expectations for life: what sort of persons they want to be, what kind of life each wants to have, what each wishes to accomplish with his/her life
2. HOPES AND EXPECTATIONS.
Making the same kind of evaluation of each other's goals may bring to light some fundamental differences in outlook and values. Each should be as honest and realistic as possible in this process. This is not the time for molding one person's choices to fit those of the other, or of trying to make the choices which will "keep the other person happy." It is a time for clear-eyed, tough-minded honesty.
3. ISSUES ABOUT COMMUNICATION.
Couples need to ask themselves: Do we have a generally good rapport, and can we talk together in an open and accepting way? Is there any sense in which one or the other wears a mask to hide true feelings? Do we have an adequate basis for working through problems and dealing with conflicts or differences of opinion?
4. SHARED INTERESTS.
Some engaged couples have the attitude, "Our love is all that matters." This is far from the truth. Without a firm basis of shared interests on which to build the marriage, the relationship quickly becomes pale, boring, and one-dimensional, prone to conflict and resentment. This does not mean that every interest must be matched exactly, but that each person is open to exploring and sharing activities together, and at the same time to give the other space to pursue personal interests.
5. INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES
Is it a vital area, or one in which each can agree to disagree? Variety can be the spice of life, but it must be set within a framework of mutual respect, concern, and appreciation for the other's individuality.
Through communicating together honestly about your individual needs and hopes for life, you would be able to decide with the guidance of the Holy Spirit that you have met with Mr./Mrs. Right! But in all this, do not follow your heart because in the issues of love, the heart can be deceptive: think well about every decision you take. D not cheapen yourself for the other party because you do not marry to satisfy his aspirations.. you marry in order to help your partner to become what the Lord wants him or her to be.
May the Lord help you bachelors, spinsters, divorcees, widows and widowers who are aspiring to enter this permanent ordinance of God to meet your right partners. God bless you all.
WILLIAM BOACHIE-ANSAH
THE CHURCH OF PENTECOST
NSAWKAW, GHANA
EMAIL: boachieansah @gmail.com
Williestel2@yahoo.co.uk
“Do not fret because of evildoers, Nor be envious of the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, And wither as the green herb. Trust in the LORD, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the LORD, AND HE SHALL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART. Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring it to pass.” (Psalm 37:1-5, NKJV)
One of the most critical decisions in life is choosing a marriage partner. Most of the youth today are confused about marriage due to this very problem of choice. With the current failure rate for marriages all over the world, it is vital for young people contemplating marriage to consider all the factors involved.
The first thing to do is to let the word of God be your guide. The text above guided me properly. I trusted the Lord in these matters, and truly, at the right time, He gave me the right lady! God never fails those who trust His guidance. Spiritual resources are important for a balanced approach to handling any circumstance of life. Be in good relationship with God, and have the assurance that God is with you always. Praying will help you to identify more clearly God's will for you before you enter into a relationship.
In addition to his there is the need to examine what you want to live your life for. This will help you to choose the right partner. As such, the following issues should be examined critically with whoever you want to live the rest of life with as a partner:
1. GOALS FOR LIFE.
Almost any kind of personal differences can be overcome, as long as the couple shares common goals for life and wants the same basic kind of lifestyle. So two people contemplating marriage should begin by identifying their own goals for life. They should determine individually their hopes and expectations for life: what sort of persons they want to be, what kind of life each wants to have, what each wishes to accomplish with his/her life
2. HOPES AND EXPECTATIONS.
Making the same kind of evaluation of each other's goals may bring to light some fundamental differences in outlook and values. Each should be as honest and realistic as possible in this process. This is not the time for molding one person's choices to fit those of the other, or of trying to make the choices which will "keep the other person happy." It is a time for clear-eyed, tough-minded honesty.
3. ISSUES ABOUT COMMUNICATION.
Couples need to ask themselves: Do we have a generally good rapport, and can we talk together in an open and accepting way? Is there any sense in which one or the other wears a mask to hide true feelings? Do we have an adequate basis for working through problems and dealing with conflicts or differences of opinion?
4. SHARED INTERESTS.
Some engaged couples have the attitude, "Our love is all that matters." This is far from the truth. Without a firm basis of shared interests on which to build the marriage, the relationship quickly becomes pale, boring, and one-dimensional, prone to conflict and resentment. This does not mean that every interest must be matched exactly, but that each person is open to exploring and sharing activities together, and at the same time to give the other space to pursue personal interests.
5. INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES
Is it a vital area, or one in which each can agree to disagree? Variety can be the spice of life, but it must be set within a framework of mutual respect, concern, and appreciation for the other's individuality.
Through communicating together honestly about your individual needs and hopes for life, you would be able to decide with the guidance of the Holy Spirit that you have met with Mr./Mrs. Right! But in all this, do not follow your heart because in the issues of love, the heart can be deceptive: think well about every decision you take. D not cheapen yourself for the other party because you do not marry to satisfy his aspirations.. you marry in order to help your partner to become what the Lord wants him or her to be.
May the Lord help you bachelors, spinsters, divorcees, widows and widowers who are aspiring to enter this permanent ordinance of God to meet your right partners. God bless you all.
WILLIAM BOACHIE-ANSAH
THE CHURCH OF PENTECOST
NSAWKAW, GHANA
EMAIL: boachieansah @gmail.com
Williestel2@yahoo.co.uk
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Please pray very well before you enter into any relationship. It pays to wait on the Lord.
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ReplyDeleteGod bless you PASTOR Willie for such good food for thought. I shall read it again and again.
ReplyDeleteThat's a wonderful article and am really blessed by it. I especially love the part which says that "Do not cheapen yourself for the other party because you do not marry to satisfy his aspirations.. you marry in order to help your partner to become what the Lord wants him or her to be. "
ReplyDeleteWe marry to help our partner fulfill God's purpose for their lives. Le's consider this as we 'WATCH AND PRAY"
Great article Pastor will. I have been encouraged by this article and i hope you will continue to share your experience with us. Thanks and God bless you and the ministry he has called you into...
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